Sunday, July 25, 2010

Cold War

Someone has an outburst today... yes, me... mood swings again. This time who got it? My girl... I didn't want to burst out at her, no intention to... but when I heard that she has been eating very little and refraining herself from food, it hit me! All these months, she has been disciplining herself from eating much, it is not good for a growing teenager. She is already very small size and refraining from eating the proper meals, it is very worrying.
Yesterday dinner, she had one slice of tuna sandwich bread only... and that's it! I gave her a piece of my mind... now we are having "cold war" again... sigh...

20 comments:

  1. Cool down...Our gal has grown up and she know what is the best for her.
    Let her cool down and I believe tomorrow the war will be over.

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  2. If she's healthy, it's ok. Maybe she's stressed with her studies, depressed. Give her support, love and care - don't pressure her. Guide her, pull and not push... I always tell my daughter - there are many options in life. If one door closes, there are so many waiting to be opened. No need to worry too much... Pray, always pray...but His will and not ours be done.

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  3. Don't worry... as long as she is healthy, it will be alright. As for the Mother-daughter Cold War, I'm quite sure you will be the one who gives in later when it comes to the compromise between parent and child. Youngsters are stubborn nowadays...

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  4. mery: girls.. they are always more sensitive than boys..


    stp: i dont know about yr girl but my girl has her silent temper.. she keeps quiet when she is not happy.. doenst talk much..


    mingna: yes, u r right.. mum always give in and talk first.. maybe she has my temper and i often get heated up fast these days. i dont like her taking less food than me.. at this age, she needs to take more in other to grow, right? sigh..i worr, she thought i m pushing her..

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  5. could it be peer pressure ? the keeping slim thing ?

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  6. like mother like daughter la...silent temper.

    as long as she is eating, then should be okay la.

    could be just a phrase that she is going thru.

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  7. elaine: perhaps hor? sigh..


    kathy: same same... but now ok liow.. just now this evening wanted to rant out.. often happens.

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  8. Glad to know that the war has ended :)

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  9. You are right!! Too many very young girls are suffering from serious eating disorders, and you don't want this cycle to start. But you need to reassure her of your love, and that you just want the best for her. At this age, teenagers are not wanting to listen to their parents, because their parents don't know anything at all. Only when we are much older, we wish we had our parents to ask advice.

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  10. I would be angry too. I mean well...why wanna refrain yourself from eating? :/

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  11. Same. Face so long like horse...and would not speak. Under pressure, stressed...always like that.

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  12. agnes: yea, mum has to give in ma.. sigh..


    ginny: u r absolutely right.. teens at this time, they tot they are adults now.. we are like a naggy to them...



    tekkaus: slim nice ma.. :)



    stp: same ah? yeah, face like horse or like eaten a lot of lard.. cannot smile one.. give them time and they r back to old self.. we parents always have to tend to that..i guess..

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  13. Claire, I dun think she have eating disorders. Mebbe no appetite. I was like her too when I was her age. I got mood wan. I wanna eat, i eat and pig out like hell, but sometimes, my dad have to come and coax me into eating, cuz i dun feel like eating anything but Jacob cream crackers!

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  14. You reminded me of myself when i was at my teenage. Hahaha! I used to skip meal and on strict diet too. My parents also gave me their very big piece of mind. Me too felt stress when came to this topic. You can try to advise her what is best for health, but respect and trust her for what she wants. Don't worry, see, I am still in one piece and still tall and big. Hahahah!

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  15. cleff: she told me diet..that is the problem.. diet for what so skinny..



    sheoh yan: u r tall.. she is smaller than me.. somemore want to diet.. *slap forehead* i worry for her.. not enough antibodies..

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  16. If the cols war is solely due to the reason that you have mentioned over here..then so be it.Don't feel guilty Claire.You did the right thing by giving her a piece of your mind.It's really harmful for her(as this is her growing period) to refrain from food the way she is doing at the moment.Just not acceptable.

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  17. Well, at least she doesn't starve herself. She wants to keep fit mah. Maybe, you cud suggest some meal lighter such as fruits and veges? Bread is ok, ask her to take 2 pcs and with Milo.

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  18. webdesign: as parents, we sure worry for our kids.. :)


    jessie: make sure they have 2 proper meals..

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  19. In the mother's eyes, it's crazy to be on diet when she's edi so slim, right? But to her, she's not slim ENUF. It's important that u let her know to stay slim, u gotta exercise regularly n eat healthily. Refraining from eating is not the way. I'm so not lookg fwd to the teen yrs. :p

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  20. ur such a caring mom la... =)
    dun worry, she still loves u, just gotta let her cool down

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