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A Few Tips About Improving Marriage



Marriage isn't always easy. When you see a couple that's been together a decade, or even two or three, then you know you're in the presence of two folks that have fought with one another, compromised, and stayed true to each other through quite a bit of adversity. There's much you can learn from such dedicated couples.

However, big problems aren't always what cause the downfall of marriages, certainly not in every case. In many instances, folks wind up splitting over the smallest things, particularly when those small things pile up.

Given that, I have asked around for marriage tips and advice, any small ways in which a husband or wife can enhance their love and improve their current marriage. According to Clarityclinic.com none of this involves therapy or serious sucking up or even a big effort on anyone's part.  These are in fact the smaller things that can wind up making a huge difference. So, these are a handful of ways you go about improving your marriage as early as today!

Forget your pride. If you're wrong, then you should apologize. If you come to the realization that you're wrong in a fight, admit that, and express your apologies. It makes a huge difference that lets you two stay close.

During a fight, try and imagine the other person being gone. There's no better way to stop fighting than imagining missing or losing that other person. Is that sadness you feel? Is there tightness through your chest? Well, that's love that you feel for that person.

Laugh more often. For me personally, that's likely the biggest secret to a decade of successful marriage. In my relationship, my husband and I both make each other laugh, a lot. We even roll around on the floor laughing, given how much we genuinely enjoy one another's company. This is one that keeps our relationship strong.




Schedule a weekly meeting. If you both have careers and young kids, then nothing may prove more important than having a weekly meeting. It's certainly not romantic, but nagging isn't either, and these meetings can curb quite a bit of nagging. I have a friend who has been doing them a while and points out how practical they are in helping everyone be organized in everyday life as though they're part of a team, and they really are.

Also, schedule sex. Again, this is not romantic, but if your life gets busy, it's critical. Pencil it into your calendar, because the alternative is even less romantic, and that's a sexless marriage.

Make sure the little things are talked about. You should talk about the big things, but you also need to cover the little things. Talk with each other, and then talk even more. The more you two talk, the more you'll learn.

Keep your own life. Nobody likes a person without friends. Keep your hobbies. Make some friends or keep the ones you have. Have a life! Today! You'll appreciate your spouse and time with him or her even more than before!

Remember to say thank you. This is still true. No matter how small saying thanks might seem, remember to say it for even small things, even if they might be expected. Just thanking someone for getting the mail or making dinner creates an abundance of goodwill and helps the other person feel like they are appreciated.

Don't stop fighting, but do stop yelling. Some fights are honestly necessary, but yelling isn't. Also, stop any name calling or fighting dirty. Just trust me on this one.

Hold hands with each other. Even if you're mad with one another, just touch each other. Do it in bed or out. In many cases, this simple act of touching each other might just curb the angry feelings.


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