If you have lost a truly close loved one, then it is a loss that you may carry with you every day. This does not have to be a sad thing (though certainly, grief is a part of it) but can instead be an opportunity to remember them, learn from them, and bring a little bit of their spirit with you. Here are some of the ways that you might be able to ensure that you remember them in everyday life.
Growing in their memory
One of the more common ways to make sure that you carry the memory of your loved one with you and keep them in mind is to have a reminder that you can look at over the years. One example that might be a good fit for those who loved being outdoors and cared about the environment is to grow a tree in their name. You can even purchase plaques that could be put at the foot of said tree, whether you grow it in your garden or apply for permission to grow it in a local park or wooded area, for instance. That way, you can tend to and watch as a living memorial grows and thrives.
Have a place to sit with them
Another common memorial installation, much like growing a tree, but one that doesn’t quite have the chance of failing to grow is a memorial bench or seat. There may be parks or public spaces around you that will allow you to dedicate a bench or other structure in the name of your loved one. If there was a place that they particularly loved, then this can be a fantastic way to connect them to that place. Others will come to associate that spot with their name, even if they didn’t know them in life, and it will always be a place for you to sit and feel close to them for all the years to come in the future.
Keeping them close
There are a lot of ways we can communicate about the things that are near and dear to our heart. Fashion, the choice of what we wear and how we look, can be one such form of communication. As such, a lot of people make a choice, such as wearing a certain garment or style as a visual reminder of the person they have lost. With options like memorial necklaces, that can even be made using the ashes of a loved one, you can create an accessory that allows you to keep your loved one close. An accessory is easier to wear with all manner of outfits than many other garments, too.
Give (or do) to their legacy
Did your loved one have causes that they cared about, ideals that they strove for, and a passionate drive to change the world in little or large ways? You can pick up the mantle in their stead if you have the time, energy, or money. If they were dedicated to any causes that you share their perspective on, then this can be the perfect opportunity and reason to get into it more actively. This can include giving on a regular basis, donating your time or efforts to local nonprofits or charities, and even fundraising in the name of your loved one. It can help ensure that the person you love has a living legacy through your actions.
Create in their name
The creative arts do not come easily to everyone, but one thing that can inspire the need to express oneself is the heavy emotion that comes as a result of a lost loved one. If you have the urge to do something but you don’t know what, getting creating and making your own memorial can be the best thing to do. This can take all manner of forms, be it a poem, a piece of visual art, some may even create a song, write a short story, or craft something. It doesn’t have to be “good” in any conventional sense, so long as it helps you honour the memory of the person you love and express your grief in a healthy way.
If you want to make sure you don’t lose your connection to a lost loved one, the above tips can help ensure that. Just be sure to keep your emotional health as your first priority. It can be easy to become fixated on the loss to detrimental effect, so be sure to have someone you can talk about your loss.